Of kids and hospital stays

29 Jan

I’ve now had both my kids end up in the hospital for multiple-day stays. I can’t say I recommend the experience! We just got home an hour or so ago from the latest saga, my daughter and a seriously wicked norovirus, which led to a 2 night stay, tons of IV fluids, and jello. Well, she doesn’t like jello, so she skipped that. But the rest of the tray was pretty similar to jello, so not very great.

While I was concerned for her and upset at what she was having to go through, I was never afraid for her life. As long as she wasn’t dehydrated and her electrolytes were kept stable, she wasn’t really in any danger, however miserable. Plus we were in the United States, where we have unlimited access to meds, wonderful medical technology, cable in both the ER room and the private room, linens and good food. (Okay, good is a stretch, but the cafeteria wasn’t bad and had a fresh salad bar.) I don’t have a bill, but I’m guessing these 3 days probably cost about $7,000, especially since they did a CT scan to rule out appendicitis.

My son was in the hospital for 4 nights in Uganda about a year and a half ago. We didn’t know at the time that he has asthma, and he fell very ill to pneumonia in about a day. (This was his 5th trip to Uganda and he’d never been sick before!). By the time he was admitted to the ER there, which was on the first day he even felt bad, his oxygen saturation level was 82%. I was in a village about 2 1/2 hrs away and had to arrange for a driver to take me back to Kampala, pay a bribe to a police woman, and only have contact by text message with my friend who’d taken him to IHK. When they got him there, his fingernails and lips were blue (which they hadn’t been able to see at home because they hadn’t had electricity at the house).

My son's room at International Hospital Kampala

My son’s room at International Hospital Kampala

That time, I was scared. Really scared, actually. Throwing up is bad, but oxygen is pretty vital, and he wasn’t getting it. Plus we were in Uganda. Okay, IHK is the best hospital in the country, founded by an Irish doctor who is now in Parliament, and well run. Everything was opened from sterile packs, we had sheets, we paid for a private room that had a bed for me, we had mosquito nets, and everyone was really nice. But the nursing staff was woefully undertrained. The way they do IV medication is to put a shunt in and manually push the medicine through (collapsing my son’s veins every time). They did an arterial blood gasses draw (very painful) and then someone unplugged the fridge so they lost it. They had one nebulizer for the whole hospital and didn’t start using it for 2 days. The tv only got two, very bad Ugandan stations.

My son got better, and the whole experience only cost me 750,000 shillings, which is about $300. When we needed more meds because Delta wouldn’t change our ticket to come back in time to get to our doctor here before the weekend, we just went back to the hospital, met with the doctor, and got another week’s worth for 60,000 shillings, or $23. Everyone was very nice, and they had ice cream at the cafeteria, which is all he ate (food was included for him, which is very unusual in Uganda — usually you have to bring your own food and linens — but beans and rice with chapati isn’t really what you want when you’re really sick!). The main inconvenience was having to go to the finance office every day to pay for that day’s services, and not having towels (my friend brought some to us). But it was frightening and gave me a huge appreciation for our medical system. And I have to give a shout-out to American Express, who was ready to evacuate us to either India or Nairobi if he needed more extensive care — they had a doctor monitoring his case, calling IHK and talking to our young British doctor, and calling me several times a day for updates.

Being in the hospital for days at a time, even when you’re not the patient, is extremely exhausting. (Note to anyone who has to stay with a child or loved one – EAR PLUGS!!) I stayed with my daughter the whole time, even though she’s twenty, because there’s not much worse than being in the hospital alone. Plus the patient really needs someone who can advocate for them. Nurses are great, but they’re really busy, and if you don’t have an emergency sometimes you get lost in the shuffle.

Plus, it’s what moms do… She may be getting married in a few months, but she’s still my little girl. I wouldn’t have been anywhere else!

4 Responses to “Of kids and hospital stays”

  1. Annetta Heller January 29, 2013 at 3:26 pm #

    It is always good to have someone with you during a hospital stay. I’ve had three major surgeries in my adult life and my mother came and stayed with me during all three. I was much older than Ryan and I am so very thankful she was able to be there for me. She helped me so much! At one point one of my nurses was in tears because of the understaffing at the hospital. I’m so glad you were able to be ther for Ryan and she is on the mend. No matter how old they get, they are still our babies….

    • Jennings January 29, 2013 at 3:28 pm #

      That’s the truth! It’s just awful to wake up alone in a hospital room… And when you don’t feel well and they’re doing things, you can feel so confused. Plus I snuck in a banana this morning! πŸ˜€

  2. Beth January 29, 2013 at 4:50 pm #

    So glad that’s over and done with. And it is great that you got to stay with her. The only time any of my children have been hospitalized was when Sarah was five and had a staph infection that started from a stubbed toe. We were living in Minnesota and Mark and I had just left for North Carolina to house hunt!!! Amanda was 3 weeks old and with me, and my mom was staying with the older three, and literally hours after we boarded the plane, she was taking Sarah to the emergency room. She ended up being in the hospital for 5 days! I was ready to turn around and head right back to MN, but the doctor and nurses assured me that she was fine, was comfortable, and after talking to her on the phone, I knew she handling it like a trooper. She didn’t feel sick, just needed IV antibiotics, and her words were, “Mommy, they give me stickers every time they come to my room and I have my own tv and ice cream and my own PHONE!!” Now, I on the other hand, was hospitalized a couple of times when I was in my twenties, and was far away from mom and had nobody but Mark to visit a couple of hours after work, and it was the pits being all alone. So yeah. She’s a lucky girl to have you. πŸ™‚

    • Jennings January 29, 2013 at 4:57 pm #

      Ugh, that’s hard! It was really hard for both Chuck and Ryan when Zeke was in the hospital since they weren’t in Uganda. Let’s just assume this is ALL OVER (until we’re becoming grandmothers!). πŸ˜€

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